Healing from Separation and Divorce- Writing a Letter to your Former Partner (that you will never give to them)

I have been reading a new book about healing after separation and I came across an activity called "writing a poison pen letter." It immediately spoke to me and I started on it right away. It was extremely helpful, and I recommend it to everyone going through the pain of separation and divorce. It really does help and feels so good to do.

Here is an outline of the task:

1. Sit down and write a letter to your former partner.

2. Write it as mean as you possibly can. Don't pull any punches. Swear, and say your worst.

3. Never send it to them. This is empowering, you are choosing not to act. You are choosing not to let them in anymore. 

4. Feel awesome after! It is so liberating.

I may share my letter in the future, but wow did I say some harsh things. All true though, but many things I would never say to anyone. I was tempted to send the letter, but I resisted. It would not be good. These are things that she needs to realize for herself and she will never ever accept them if someone tells them to her. 

Try it today, I highly recommend this and I will do it again very soon. If this helps, check out my other top tips for emotionally surviving your separation or divorce here.